My future mother-in-law and I have
very different taste. How do I make sure we don't end up disagreeing
over my wedding-dress choice?
This is just the beginning of a lifetime of compromise between
you and your mother-in-law. Even if you've already planned
to go dress-shopping with your own mother, you should be able
to live through a day of dress-browsing with your future mom-in-law.
Just make sure she understands that it's a just-looking outing
and that you don't intend to buy a dress that day. This way,
the pressure is off. If she points out styles that make your
stomach turn, you can politely avoid a confrontation by saying,
"I don't know" or "I'll think about it." Later, when you're
out dress-shopping with your mom, you'll hopefully find what
you really want-and buy it.
Still concerned that the day might turn into a battle of
opinions? Just invite one of your bridesmaids to join you.
A third party is a great way to calm potentially stormy waters,
as most people are reluctant to argue in front of an audience.
This is just the beginning of a lifetime of compromise between
you and your mother-in-law. Even if you've already planned
to go dress-shopping with your own mother, you should be able
to live through a day of dress-browsing with your future mom-in-law.
Just make sure she understands that it's a just-looking outing
and that you don't intend to buy a dress that day. This way,
the pressure is off. If she points out styles that make your
stomach turn, you can politely avoid a confrontation by saying,
"I don't know" or "I'll think about it." Later, when you're
out dress-shopping with your mom, you'll hopefully find what
you really want-and buy it.
