Dresses & Accessories

Should I Wear Sexy Wedding-Night Underwear?

by Heidi Sherman

My fiancé wants to buy me sexy underwear for the wedding night, but I feel silly dressing up. Do I go for it, or bag it?

There is an enormous amount of pressure on a couple to have a great wedding night. To your fiancéé, sexy lingerie may be insurance that he can become aroused. To you, it may be a silly charade. The important thing is to talk it out with your man. ”This is only the first night of many together, so discuss the situation and evaluate what is best for both of you,” advises Virginia A. Sadock, M.D., a clinical professor of psychiatry and director of the Program in Human Sexuality at NYU Medical Center.

If you’re open to the notion, go shopping together so you can try on lingerie and see if you find something you feel comfortable in.

It’s important to note that if this is your first time making love, you should talk about how he envisions you dressing for sex—and why. It’s better to know what he expects with sex before you tie the knot.

However, if he just wants his bride to look sexy, and you think wearing skimpy lingerie could be exciting, try it and have some fun. You won’t be the first couple to have discovered that a little spice can be nice.