Attendants and Guests

How Can I Pick Just Four Bridesmaids?

I’m having a problem choosing attendants. On one hand, there are my old friends whom I’ve known for ten years, but don’t really keep in touch with. Then there are my fiancé’s groomsmen’s wives. We’re friends, but we don’t have a special relationship. My fiancé and I agreed to have four attendants each, and I’ve already asked my two sisters. Where should my other two come from?

Nowhere. Enjoy a wedding party that is made up of just your sisters. Bridesmaid positions are meant for only your closest family members and pals, and the others don’t fit the bill. You’ll have an uneven wedding party, but so what? It’ll be more special because the bridesmaids are special to you.

Now, about the two male attendants who don’t have an arm to walk in on: they can proceed down the aisle alone, or as a pair. Or double up the male attendants with your bridesmaids (what woman doesn’t love to have two guys on her arm?). At the reception, either skip the coupled-off wedding-party dance (unless the guys don’t mind dancing together) or go for a quick change-up: after you and your groom share your first dance, ask the DJ or band to switch over to an upbeat tune and the whole group can boogie en masse.