Attendants and Guests

How Do I Un-ask A Bridesmaid?

I wanted a very small wedding party. One of my friends just assumed she was included—she even clipped out bridesmaid dresses she liked. How do unask her (even though technically I never did)? Or do I just leave her in the party to preserve our friendship?

If you really believe setting her straight her will end a friendship that you'd like to hold on to, then let her be your bridesmaid—but know that she definitely sprinted right over a line when she invited herself into your wedding party.

Otherwise, talk to her in private and say that you appreciate that she feels so close to you and wants to be in your wedding party, but you wanted to have just your sister as attendant or only your childhood friends or.... Then offer up another role of honor: Let her do a reading, or make her an honorary attendant, where she'll get up-front seating and a corsage at the wedding. Don't feel bad about "unasking" her—when you never even did the asking in the first place.