Invitations and Stationery

Should I Have Left Dad Out?

I was raised by my mom and stepdad. My real father has never really been a big part of my life, so I put my stepdad's name on the invitation and not my dad's. I didn't even want to invite him, but felt I had to. My father was hurt. Was I wrong?

If you felt like your father hasn't been enough of a dad to rate a mention on your invite, then you were right to omit him. Don't double-think your gut instincts.

It might have been easier on him—and therefore, on you—if, before the invitations were sent out, you had sat down with him to tell him how you felt- that your stepfather had played a much more important role in your life. But you weren't wrong. Comfort yourself by knowing that in these complicated situations, there is never one right answer.