How Can We Agree on the Music?

My parents want quiet, soft music for the reception while I want to celebrate by partying and dancing all night long. How can we resolve this musical quandary?

Try a compromise. Have quiet music during the dinner, with no dancing in between courses, and start the party afterward. “I’ve seen that work beautifully,” says Sylvia Bigelsen, the author of The Ties That Bind…And Bind…And Bind (Element Books).

You can ask your band or DJ to play some old songs and encourage guests to get up and dance. Make sure the DJ or band knows your parents’ song, which they should play soon after your first dance and your dance with your dad.