My parents keep asking people to our
wedding. Are we under any obligation to follow through on
these invites?
No invite is set in stone unless it’s accompanied by
an actual invitation. The first thing to do is to make sure
you know what the maximum capacity is for your reception space—this
can be your most useful argument against overdoing the guest
list. The next thing to do is to get on the phone and say,
”Whoa, Nelly!” to your parents.
Of course, you need to be sensitive to who’s paying for
what. If your parents are footing the reception bill, you
may not be able to pull in the reins too tightly. Of course,
it’s a whole different ball game if you and your fiancé
are paying for the gig.
In that case, if your parents insist on going over their allotted
quota of guests, suggest that they pay for the additional
invites. But keep in mind that if you allow your parents to
invite 50 people and your fiancé’s parents only
25, that discrepancy might not sit too well with some family
members. So be as fair as possible, and you’ll improve
your chances of everything coming out happily-ever-after.
No invite is set in stone unless it’s accompanied by
an actual invitation. The first thing to do is to make sure
you know what the maximum capacity is for your reception space—this
can be your most useful argument against overdoing the guest
list. The next thing to do is to get on the phone and say,
”Whoa, Nelly!” to your parents. 
