How do we un-invite someone who assumes
she’s coming to our wedding?
No wedding would be complete without one assumed invite. You
have a couple of options, depending on when this wanna-be
guest decided to invite herself. If you just announced your
engagement and haven’t made any decisions on budget and
guest count yet, warn the assuming friend that your budget
will be tight and you might have to opt for a smaller wedding.
This way, when the invitations go out and hers is not among
the signed, sealed and soon-to-be-delivered, she won’t
be surprised.
If she requested a spot at your gig after hearing about your
300-person celebration, it’s a bit trickier. It’s
hard to tell someone you can’t fit one more when you’re
having a big party. At this point, consider how much this
friendship means to you. If you decide to leave her off the
guest list, she might feel slighted and it could result in
a strained or ended friendship. However, wait until you start
receiving your first RSVP cards before you break any news
to her. You might get more declines than you expected and
decide in the end that you do have an extra spot for her.
If that’s the case, send out her invite as soon as possible,
so that her B-list status won’t be apparent.
No wedding would be complete without one assumed invite. You
have a couple of options, depending on when this wanna-be
guest decided to invite herself. If you just announced your
engagement and haven’t made any decisions on budget and
guest count yet, warn the assuming friend that your budget
will be tight and you might have to opt for a smaller wedding.
This way, when the invitations go out and hers is not among
the signed, sealed and soon-to-be-delivered, she won’t
be surprised. 
