I earn more than my fiancé and
will be contributing more for the wedding. How can I avoid
making him feel inadequate?
It’s not uncommon for a woman to make more money than
her fiancé. However, it can create a rift in your wedding
planning—as well as in your relationship—if he
doesn’t feel like an equal partner. To balance things
out and stay on level ground, establish a system now that
works for both of you. Consider paying for the wedding out
of a joint account to which you both contribute. If you make
twice as much as your fiancé, you’d chip in, say,
twice as much to the kitty. That way, the money’s no
longer yours or his—it’s both of yours. And both
of you should be equally involved in decision-making no matter
who earns more, Once you’re married, these strategies
can work with household expenses as well.
If your money disparity is a bigger problem than you can
solve on your own, get support. A financial planner can facilitate
communication and help you devise good strategies.
It’s not uncommon for a woman to make more money than
her fiancé. However, it can create a rift in your wedding
planning—as well as in your relationship—if he
doesn’t feel like an equal partner. To balance things
out and stay on level ground, establish a system now that
works for both of you. Consider paying for the wedding out
of a joint account to which you both contribute. If you make
twice as much as your fiancé, you’d chip in, say,
twice as much to the kitty. That way, the money’s no
longer yours or his—it’s both of yours. And both
of you should be equally involved in decision-making no matter
who earns more, Once you’re married, these strategies
can work with household expenses as well.
