What's in
a Name?
How to decide if you should take on his moniker, keep your
own...or do something in between
Are you planning to love, honor, cherish...and take his
name? Here are a few things to consider before making the
big switch.
On the job
Worried about the confusion a name change might cause at work?
If you feel strongly that your maiden name is tied in with your
professional identity then you might opt not to make the change.
Or, you could go the Clark Kent route and keep one identity
by day (your maiden name) and another by night (your married
name).
The third option is to just go ahead and change it. Of course,
until your new moniker really sinks in, people will probably
forget and continue to use your maiden name, at least for
a while. (But don’t worry—they’ll catch on!)
Family matters
If you decide to keep your name and you plan to have children
someday, how will you feel about having a different last name
from the rest of your crew? If this would bother you, and changing
your name would create a stronger sense of family for you, then
go for it. However, if you opt to keep your maiden name, rest
assured that households with two last names are quite common
these days.
Options galore
Consider all your choices. You can:
- Pass your maiden name on. If you decide to switch, use
your maiden name as your first child’s middle name.
- Have it all. Use a hyphen to link your name with your
hubby’s.
- Call in a sub. Take the traditional path, but use your
maiden name as your middle name.
- Get creative. Try combining part of your last name with
part of his and see what come up with.
- Be ultra-modern. It might be a long shot, but what if
your husband took your last name? It couldn’t hurt
to ask.
Making it legit
If you decide to nab your husband’s name, saying ”I
do” does not make it official. First you have to receive
your certified certificate of marriage registration in the mail.
This usually takes about two weeks after the wedding to arrive.
A certificate of marriage registration is considered a legal
document, and you can use it to change your name.
If you opt for something a little different, like creating
a new last name, you will most likely have to fill out a Name
Change Packet in addition to an Application to Marry.
Unfortunately it’s not such a modern world out there
and a certificate of marriage registration usually just gives
you the right to change your name to your husband’s.
Once you complete the additional paperwork, a judge will decide
whether or not to grant your name change, and issue a Final
Judgment of Name Change.
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