I’m a bridesmaid in my sister’s
wedding, along with three of her friends and my 12-year-old
sister. Her friends planned a very expensive shower without
asking for my opinion, then told me I needed to contribute
a huge sum of money toward the shower...and they asked my
little sister for the same amount.
I don’t think we should be expected to fund this shower,
as we had no part in planning it. Should we pay up?
Certainly, a 12-year-old should not cough up her annual baby-sitting
income for a shower, even if it’s for her sister. Divide
the expenses among the older bridesmaids. Since her friends
kept you out of the loop, you technically don’t have
to put a penny towards the shower.
But, that’s going to cause enough angst and drama for
two seasons of Melrose Place. So pitch in, buy your sister
a small shower gift and take comfort in the fact that you
were the better person.
Certainly, a 12-year-old should not cough up her annual baby-sitting
income for a shower, even if it’s for her sister. Divide
the expenses among the older bridesmaids. Since her friends
kept you out of the loop, you technically don’t have
to put a penny towards the shower. 
