Wedding Styles

I’m Pregnant—Can I Have a Big Wedding?

A week after my fiancé and I got engaged, I found out I was pregnant. We’ve decided not to move up the wedding, which means we’ll be married after the baby is born. My family thinks that it’s not appropriate for us to have a big wedding, or much of a wedding at all. Is it really wrong to go ahead with what we want? And should we invite the family members who are against it?

If you want a big wedding, then go for it! The old rules that say a bride with a child should have a quick—and-dirty ceremony are just that—old.

If it’s important to you and your fiancé that these family members be present, a compromise would be best: Have a small-scale reception after the ceremony and invite the relatives to that. A few weeks later, have a huge blowout with the friends and family who support you. That way you’ll get to have your big wedding—but without the big drama.